Those who want to live equally today cannot wait for tomorrow's politics but must take action themselves. But how does one break free from entrenched gender patterns in partnership, caregiving, and paid work? The author of the SPIEGEL bestseller "Out of the Mental Load Trap" and diploma psychologist Patricia Cammarata provides willing individuals with the proverbial sledgehammer to pave new paths despite a frustratingly rigid system. Practical ideas show how to find allies, expose stubborn stereotypes, distribute household tasks fairly, communicate effectively, work equally less, and think outside the box. It is high time that the breaking of patterns occurs not only in our minds but also in everyday life.